What is positivity?
(and 2 tips to STAYING positive)
Well to begin, I’ll tell you what it’s not. Positivity is NOT walking around with a smile on your face at all times pretending like nothing ever goes wrong.
Yes, the state of being positive is associated to good feelings such as happiness, joy, gratitude, confidence, enthusiasm, satisfaction, euphoria, pride, contentment, and inspiration (to name a few).
However, to be a positive person, does not mean that you only experience positive feelings and thoughts.
To be positive is to accept that negative things happen, while staying positive in spite of them.
When bad things happen it's important to try to find the good in them (or in the good that was before them, or in the good that will come after them). Even if it was just a lesson to help you learn something... and when going through a challenging time in your life, don’t get down on yourself.
As humans we experience something called the “negativity bias” or “negativity effect” where things of more negative nature tend to have a greater effect on our psychological state of mind than positive things do.
It’s common to think about how much better our business, relationship, career or bank account could be.
How many times do you make a mistake and beat yourself up over it, or something bad, but completely out of your control happens and you let it absorb all your positive feelings, thoughts, and energy and replace it with negative ones?
We tend to think about how far we still have to go instead of how far we’ve come.
A million things could be going right in our lives and we could receive a million compliments, but it only takes one thing to go wrong or one person to say something negative to take away all the good we were feeling.
We allow others to be very hard on us and are even harder on ourselves.
This happens to all of us!
We have to realize that when we allow these things or people to do this to us we are allowing them to take something from us and in doing so we are doing a disservice to ourselves. We only have a certain amount of energy per day. Use it wisely and use it to your advantage.
So, how do we combat negativity with positivity?
Step 1: We have to be aware that we are being negative in the first place.
If something upset you or hurt you accept it. Give yourself the space to feel it, then let it go and move on. How? Well that leads me to the second step.
Step 2: We have to FIND the positivity.
Sometimes that can be challenging. If I can’t find a reason for how a mistake I made could benefit me I tell myself, “well at least I’ve learned this now, so I can make sure it doesn’t happen again and I can avoid more important and maybe even more costly mistakes from happening later”.
It all begins with you and your willingness to be truthful with yourself about who you really are and how you really feel. It’s only once you’ve allowed yourself to be honest with YOURSELF that you can truly achieve the self-awareness necessary to take control of your mind and switch the direction of your thoughts to something more positive and productive.
Remember, when you are going through a challenging time remind yourself of the good that has been and the good that will come. Your current place is not your permanent place.
Learn from the lessons and celebrate the successes!
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Please stay tuned as I walk you through explaining what positivity is, how to think positive, how to be positive, and how to stay positive.